You’re a boss babe. You are the lady who brings her A-game to the office every day, drives that gorgeous car, and also somehow manages to take care of all her loved ones. Plain and simple, you grabbed your life by the horns and make it work. Being a boss babe isn’t easy and that’s why it’s a celebrated act. 

However, we gotta be honest. Even the toughest boss babe is going to have a moment where she (or they) just wants to have a soft life. Soft living means that you get to enjoy the cozy side of things—and occasionally, just celebrate being a girl. 

  1. First, remember that it’s okay to choose clothing that is comfy. 

Being a boss babe and a self-made woman often means that you are going to have to wear outfits that are constricting or otherwise stiff. You don’t always have to go for an 80s-style power suit if you don’t want to. 

There are tons of clothing options that remain professional (or just plain elegant) without causing pain. Sometimes, a nice pair of leggings and a long shirt are all you need.

  1. That goes for shoes, too. 

You might love wearing those Louboutins, but your feet sure as heck don’t. It’s okay to stick to sandals or comfy high heels from time to time. Give your feet a break. You’ll thank yourself later.

If you want to keep things pretty professional or stately while you enjoy your mobility, ballet flats are the smartest move. You can also check out some breathable shoe brands if you’re the type who has your feet overheat.

  1. Clean your room and make your bed super nice. 

There is something incredibly plush and soft about having a clean home to return to after the end of a crazy day at work. This is equally true when you’re talking about a bedroom that is decked out with plush bedding, a nice throw pillow or two, and some hotel-quality sheets. 

The idea behind soft living is to have a nice, easy way of life that is amenable to relaxation. What’s more relaxing than having a nap in gorgeous lush sheets? It’s hard to top that. If you can afford it, hire a service to give your home a quick clean. You’ll thank yourself.

  1. Indulge in some aromatherapy.

Aromatherapy is the perfect way to add a touch of soft living to your life. Whether it’s in a bath, an aromatherapy-infused massage or a scented candle doesn’t matter. It’s all good. 

This is one of the few little indulgences that have some actual science backing its benefits. Studies show that aromatherapy use is linked to better moods, better levels of relaxation, and a better level of focus.

  1. Take time to sip some tea. 

Tea time is so underrated, don’t you agree? Drinking tea can lead to lower stress levels, and weight loss, as well as boost immunity. It all depends on the tea, of course, but the health benefits alone make this a great way to unwind after a long day. 

To fully appreciate tea, get a flavor you enjoy, layout some cute china, and maybe serve it alongside some tasty desserts. Cookies, tea cakes, or even a slice of your favorite sponge cake could be a good addition here. 

  1. Visit a cat (or rabbit) cafe or go to a puppy party.

Want to add a little literal softness to your life? Buy (or adopt) a pet! Or, if you currently have a fuzzy or feathered friend, give them extra love. Animals are awesome and can add a new level of love to your life.

If you live in an apartment that doesn’t allow pets, it might be a smart idea to go to a cat cafe nearby. Cat and rabbit cafes allow you to spend time with fluffy fun while you sip on some coffee. What could be better than that?

  1. Remember that it’s okay to put yourself first.

Finally, it’s important to remember that being a boss babe is a demanding lifestyle. You’re juggling a lot of people’s demands. You might have a manager who makes it hard for you to do work, a couple of kids in tow, as well as a spouse who might ask you for a favor on his end, too.

Hit that pause button now. Take a breath. You can’t burn yourself alive in order to keep everyone else warm. Once in a while, it’s okay to tell people that you have to prioritize your own needs. Tell your kids, your spouse, and the boss that you need to have a night out for yourself. You’ll be much happier (and more productive) if you do.